5 Great Steps to Organize Your Life. Now!

 

  Ever feel like you are making changes and working hard but never making any progress?  It is a feeling many people struggle with.  I would like to say you are not alone and you are most likely a victim of your own complexity.  We desire change in our lives but do not realize how simple the little things can be to change.  We complicate things to the point where they are unrecognizable and we get frustrated and give up to going back to what is secure, easy, and safe.  We are trapped by our own complications.    So how do we break these cycles of frustration and get the proverbial truck out of the mud.

1. Focus on your destination.

      If you have these feelings of stagnation and frustration in your desire to change things in your life it is most likely because you have not effectively communicated your desired outcome to yourself.  How you communicate with yourself is one of the most important things we can learn in our lives.  Mastering this can help you accomplish how you look at situations differently than others and how you respond to changes. Self communication is the way you speak to yourself, it is how you tell yourself you are doing great or that you are terrible. It is often the difference maker in whether you succeed in life or whether you do not. Now in desiring change in our lives  what we need to do is specifically determine our destination.  How do you know which direction you are going if you don't have the map.  Make sure you know exactly where you want to be or what you want to obtain from making the specific change you are after. 

2.Outline a plan.

      Another reason most people feel like they are spinning their tires in the mud regarding to making lasting change in their lives is lack of an active plan.  Most folks truly want to change the negative habits in their lives but have no idea of how to get their.  They can see themselves at their destination but the course is foggy; with not a path to follow most people wander in circles eventually giving up on their desired outcome.  When people state their outcome; for example, if you want to lose 40 pounds.  They have a good picture in their head of what being 40 pounds lighter will seem like.  What most fail to do is communicate effectively with themselves on how to obtain this goal.  Anyone who needs to lose weight knows that dieting doesn't work for the long term and working out is usually difficult to stick with for the duration.  So you need to  change the way you talk to yourself.  Instead of planning a diet or joining a gym, take up a new hobby.  Something that will be fun to do, like kayaking, hiking, biking, or maybe playing a sport you have always wanted to play.  Then the focus is on enjoying your new hobby instead of the dread of going to the gym or how much food you can't eat with your new diet.  The natural result of your new hobby will be that you get to do something fun and you will lose weight in the process without even really thinking about it
.  It is win, win.  All by just adjusting how you speak to yourself and the type of plan that you choose to implement.

3.  Take action.

     No trip is every taken just because you have a map, an itinerary and a suitcase full of clothes.  You actually have to take some type of action to take a vacation.  Get in the car, on the plane or in the boat and take off.  Same is true for your outcome.  Take your destination, and your plan and take the first step.  Usually this takes you stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something you wouldn't normally do, but that is when you grow the most.  The sheltered plant in the shade doesn't grow, it withers.   Don't be that plant, step outside your comfort zone and take real action.  If you are not seeing any results than change your action to get the desired results that you are looking to attain. 

4. Reinforcement

     Experts say it takes about 21 days for you to form a new habit.  So don't give up on your new actions that are moving you toward your goals. Really enforce them and practice them over and over until they are solidified as new positive habits.  Then your desired outcome isn't only your goal but it becomes part of your life.  Reinforcement of your habits will determine your eventual success of your outcome.

5.  Educate others.

     Once you have followed the steps and actually accomplished changing poor habits in your life you cannot help but want to show others how to they too can change those little things in their lives.  Share with them the information they need, and encourage them every step of the way.  Let them know that if you can do it anyone can.  That is what I always tell people, I am just a normal person but I never gave up on my dreams for sake of safety or security.  I want to help others accomplish more in their lives and give up their poor habits and implement them with excellent ones.

I hope this post was helpful and have fun with your journey.  If you have anymore questions or seek more information check out my website at www.attitudedriveslife.com

.....and as always thank you!

Think like this. It will solve everything.

       You're selfish.  Face it; that is the hard reality.  Are we not programmed to take care of ourselves first.  Think of every single problem that arises in this world.  It stems from a belief in selfishness.  Whether its forcing some people to believe the way someone else believes, taking things from someone who you think doesn't deserve it, or just saying things that hurt someone else's feelings.  All of those problems come from the root of selfishness.  We cannot change this thought process in the world over night; but if each one of us really reflected on what is important in our lives and changed the way we react and the things we expect; real change could be made.  One person at a time.

       We are all selfish. This is where all of our headaches come to us from; especially in relationships.  The reason people fight or end their marriages are always some from of selfishness.  Think about it.  Can't we just have faith that it is your spouses job to fulfill your needs and your job to fulfill theirs.  Leave it at that and stop trying to have it all. Be more patient and think about other people in this world.  Especially when those people are your family.

       If we were all more patient and took time to appreciate things for what they are we would live in a better world.  We need to kill our selfishness and help others who necessitate it, encourage those who need encouraging, love those who need to be loved, and always know that your needs will get met. Always, if you are reading this you most likely are not starving or homeless, so you are better off then 90% of the world anyway.

Treat everyday as a gift.  Be more patient.  Take care of others like you would take care yourself.

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Top Five reasons I love my wife...

      There are alot of relationships out there that need a little more of this.  This blogpost is from my heart, it is true.  I believe we would be better off as a society if people treated eachother better.  That starts with how you treat your spouse.  This is intended to help others think about what they love the most about their spouse, and to maybe remind them if they have forgotten.  I am not trying  to boast here, my only intentions are to help those who need some encouragement.

5. Motherhood - My wife is an excellent mother and I give her so much credit for making my house a home.  The way she is with our two sons is amazing. She is patient, loving, and wise.  This is one of the reasons I wanted to marry her in the first place.  She knows how to deal with the children without bias and I appreciate her for all she does for our children.

4. Supportive - People who know me personally know that I am an adventurer through and through and tend to dive into projects rather spontaneously.  I know this can cause alot of stress on a spouse who may not be patient enough or brave enough to see it through but my wife is behind me every step of the way.  Not there to nag me when my crazy idea didn't work but to tell me how she knows that if this idea didn't work then we are one step closer to success with the next one.  She told me shoe will follow me anywhere and I can smile because of that.

3. Her Spirit - The way she carries herself.  She acts like a lady out in public very reserved except with those she is closest to.  This is probably one of the things that makes her so attractive.  She is exceedingly beautiful but there are so many more reasons to love her than aesthetics alone.  The fact that she just has a kind way about her and a peaceful presence is a great thing to have in your life and your home.  I am grateful she is this way.

2. Positive - Like me, she also is very positive.  This was a requirement in marrying me. Just kidding. She always looks at things and how we can make them better instead of letting the worst of the worst get us down.  Everyone goes through their tough times but with her attitude they do not seem so bad.

1. Patient - Anyone can care for another person but the true testament of their love is what they do when the other person hurts them or lets them down.  She is one of  the most patient women I have ever met.  She has always been there, maybe not happy, but never willing to give up on our relationship.  The communication that we have developed has only gotten better over the years and it helps us support eachother everyday.  With her patience everyday is sweeter.

I love my wife and am very grateful for all she does for me and my family.

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